I have the opportunity of meeting, mentoring and counseling a lot of dynamic people. I found some recurring themes and I thought sharing this information would help someone out there.
You are having the time of your life and probably believe you have met the man of your dreams. Not seeing your loved one for a day seems unthinkable and feels like eternity. One thing you may have forgotten is that, he had a life before he met you. I know you had one too and thats why it is important for the health of the relationship that your worlds do not merge into one. It is a great idea to follow the wise advice that suggests you should be close enough to keep each other warm and far enough not to burn each other out in your relationships.
You are having the time of your life and probably believe you have met the man of your dreams. Not seeing your loved one for a day seems unthinkable and feels like eternity. One thing you may have forgotten is that, he had a life before he met you. I know you had one too and thats why it is important for the health of the relationship that your worlds do not merge into one. It is a great idea to follow the wise advice that suggests you should be close enough to keep each other warm and far enough not to burn each other out in your relationships.
Relationships are not crutches, rather, they are like wings that take us to another level. To be honest, I do not know too many people who enjoy the company of a needy person. I know you mean the world to your mate but give each other room to breathe. Your partner cannot miss you if you are always there. Some couples have a tendency to isolate themselves from their friends which eventually bites them in the end. Remember no one can meet all your needs, each of you still need other people in your lives in other for your relationship to be balanced. It is never too late to start rebuilding the bridges you may have burned. If the bridge is intact, ensure you strengthen it. A good way to strengthen such bridges is to have a healthy rapport with your BF's friends. Friends have substancial influence over us and they can help during rocky times when you or your BF seeks advice from their inner circle. I have heard of several broken relationships and engagements because friends who were left out of or ignored when the couple had their good times refused to be peacemakers when things got out of hand.
The truth is, we all want to be around and hold onto things and people we love but when it becomes excessive, it causes our loved ones to withdraw rather than draw close to us. When people come together to establish any form of relationship, it is wise to share each others worlds rather than one party taking it over.
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