Characteristics That Make You Likeable

Hey everyone, social media such as twitter, Facebook, myspace seem to be the center of our networking and communication these days. They have incredible advantages such as the role they are playing in places like Egypt. Despite the vast benefits of todays virtual and social network, they are still at best virtual. People may tend to be loosing their ability to connect with people on a one to one basis . The social networks can connect you and even bring people to your door step but its your personality that will make them stay with you or leave. Before you go for the final pitch, people will want a chance to want to know or meet you. The question is , will they like want they see? This blog is about going from zero to hero. Regardless of where you are right now,  from awesome to bone head, there is growth for everyone

What are the qualities or the characteristics that you see in people that make you want to be around them?

Are You a Nutrient Or a Weed

What do you have to offer? What do you bring to the table? Do you bring out the best in the people you connect with? Do you bring relief or are you that person who sucks the life out of a room?    You may be gorgeous or generally likeable but after a while people will evaluate their relationships with you. They will ask themselves if they have become a better person by being around you. Typically, when vegetables are grown in a garden, weeds start growing as well. The weeds compete with the vegetables for the nutrients in the soil. If the weeds are not removed, they eventually affect the growth and quality of the vegetables. If people see you as a weed in their lives, it is just a matter of time before they get rid of you. People who act like weeds contribute nothing to relationships. They just keep taking; as a result they become a nuisance. If people see you as a nutrient, they will want you in their lives because you make their world a better place. So look out for ways you can be a nutrient to the people in your sphere of influence.

Dreams and Second Opinions

Many of us have been limited by what other people think or feel about our ideas or dreams. While I think it is important to get counsel on crucial issues affecting your life, you must remember that they are guidelines and not rules. The counsel you receive should help you make informed decisions. It is also important whom you ask  counsel. A doctor is not the best person to ask for advice on your tax problems. 

The Wright brothers learned from the failed experience of others to make their dream (airplane) come true. I am sure many others gave up since others had failed but the Wright brothers listened to their heart and persisted.Please do not give up on your dreams because it does not sound like a market idea originally. Some dreams are mean't to create markets and not necessarily fit in. Keep at it. It will work. 

Friend Fishing

Think about it we all fishers, we all are fishing for something  ranging from love, friends, career , esteem, life, laughter, depth...... One thing I do know about fishing is that the quality of your bait determines the quality of your catch. Catching your bait and keeping it is another matter on its own. Likewise with people, the quality of people you tend to attract to you depends largely on your personality or in some cases your persona. The question then becomes if your personality or reputation tends to attract people does it make them stay or do discover it was all a facade?  It is no news that the secret of successful companies depends on repeat customers but even better evangelical customers who inform others about the great service or product they have obtained. So like the fisherman who makes a good quality bait for fishing, your best bait here will be your perosnality. I am sure some sketchy people use actual baits on people just to lure them in and  trap them but it is just a matter of time before they lose their holds or grips on their preys. This blog will also help in identifying such personalities and how to avoid and break free from them

What are characteristics of great baits when it comes to fishing for friends?