Bulletproof

I was speaking with a friend recently who had a traumatic experience growing up. This experience  made him not trust anyone. According to him, many of his "friends" took advantage of him and  this prevented him from having any significant relationships with others. It is natural to guard our hearts to prevent negative experiences from reoccurring. My friend wore a bulletproof vest to protect himself. While you may have been disappointed by the people closest to you. It is crucial that you allow the past guide, and not control you. Not everyone who looks like somebody you used to know will cause harm. It is fine to guard your heart from negative people and experiences, but wearing a bulletproof shuts everyone out.

You will be living life at half potential, if you choose to become emotionally unavailable due to the past. It is important to seek counsel and forgive your offenders in other to move on. It is difficult, but you have to get your life back. Your experiences may predispose you to doubts, but you have to overcome them. I am not suggesting that your experiences are not significant, but let them make you a better person by making informed choices. Your experiences will be holding you back, if you let them paint everyone in the same color of your past experiences. If you are from a background where infidelity ruined a great home, it is possible to have trust issues. The way out is to find mentors who have stable homes, and ask them how they were able to have   healthy relationships. Choosing to believe that everyone cheats will make you suspicious, unfulfilled and will eventually crash you relationship.

People do not care how much you know till they know how much you care. So, it is paramount that you connect with people without having any preformed prejudices. Hanging unto the past will only hang potential great relationships. Please let go, forgive yourself and others, and move on. Your life is meant to be enjoyed and not endured, but it is a choice only you can make. If you want to wear a bulletproof vest, wear one for dream and joy killers and those who want to pull you down. Otherwise, take it off, and choose to live a life devoid of anymosity, grudges and bitterness.

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